Babies don’t need things, they need connection.
Nurseries are not biologically ideal.
“Irrepressible (ancient) neurologically-based infant responses to maternal smells, movements and touch altogether reduce infant crying while positively regulating infant breathing, body temperature, absorption of calories, stress hormone levels, immune status, and oxygenation.” – James Mckenna
- The highest rates of bedsharing worldwide occur alongside the lowest rates of infant mortality.
- It reduces the chances of an infant dying from SIDS or from an accident by one half.
- Fires, sexual predators, animal attacks, suffocation after vomiting and other injuries can all be better prevented if a parent is nearby to help.
- The increased exposure to mother’s antibodies which comes with more frequent nighttime breastfeeding can reduce infant illness.
- The low calorie composition of human breast milk (adjusted for the infants’ undeveloped gut) requires frequent night feeds.
- Frequent night feeds helps to maintain the mother’s milk supply, which enables her to continue breastfeeding long-term. This is especially important for mothers who have to go back to work early.
There’s also the psychological component.
“Cribs force babies to face the long night alone years before they are psychologically equipped to do so. Isolation teaches harmful lessons of mistrust, powerlessness, and despair, creating a deep sense of loneliness that no teddy bear can fulfill. Judging from the reports of adults in hypnotherapy, art therapy, and psychoanalysis, experiences of forced separation from parents in infancy and childhood are traumatic, with long-term effects on the adult personality.” – Jan Hunt
I value my sleep.
“Research has shown that breastfeeding mothers who co-sleep get more sleep than both bottle-feeding mothers and mothers who breastfeed, but do not co-sleep.” – Evolutionary Parenting